Deepak

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I’m a father, a son, and born and brought up in India with ancestral connections in Nepal. I lived in Nepal, came to Canada in 2010. So still carrying the fire of fathers and forefathers.

FROM ORDINARY TO UNIQUE. Being a dad means something different, something unique… an ordinary common man, went to be a dad with a new kind of identity. So that was a really unique dimension of life.. I’m an advisor, I am a friend, I’m a guide and inspiration, motivation, so many things for my son.

I’M A FATHER, NOT ONLY A MAN. But here, life versus living, that was another portion of new perspective. I need to always pay attention on being a father, or being a man. And the status in the society and other contexts, in the profession and occupational life, the status change in my identity card, whenever I go and fill out the form there I need to write, FATHER not only a man.

FATHERHOOD IN A GLOBAL SOCIETY. There was a big challenge for me to adjust the value system: how to speak, how to use the goods, and how to use the value systems in the family. For example, we were grown in a collective set of life… and little bit family hierarchy… father was more prominent. But here we need to practice more liberal notions… it was a challenge for me to create a balance.


Akintomiwa

Being a Dad goes beyond being the sperm donor or a father. You need to be a lot of things rolled in one for your kid; a friend, brother, confidant, mentor, role model, teacher, drinking buddy (when your kid is old enough), coach (for those who play sports), etc. My Dad was and is still all these to me.

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Arturo

I’m a father of four adult children now. I have two grandkids too. For me, fatherhood is also a combination of fatherhood and motherhood. My wife helps me out in parenthood. We promote good healthy living to our children. So we enjoy walking together.

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Badri

Being a father means just transferring the genes to another generation. It also means transferring my value, belief, culture, and relationship style.

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Bomlal

Being a father holds many responsibilities. I try to be positive and spread love and care because my son looks up to me since I am his role model. I play many roles in my kids’ life. Being a father means that I am also a playmate, teacher, friend and confidant to my children.

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Deepak

Being a dad means something different, something unique… an ordinary common man, went to be a dad with a new kind of identity. So that was a really unique dimension of life.. I’m an advisor, I am a friend, I’m a guide and inspiration, motivation, so many things for my son.

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Eric

Being a dad means we let go of our children. As they grow up, they’ll be more and more independent and there will come a time that you know, probably in Canada by the time they’re 18 or 21. They’ll either be on their own. So we only have like, let’s say 17, 20 years of influence with our children and it’s just preparing to let them go.

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Erwin

I raised by a disciplinarian dad, resulting in a  not-so-good relationship with him growing up. I’ve decided that when time comes I’ll be a dad, I’ll be more approachable, more patient, and more understanding so I’ll develop a closer bond between me and my son.

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Krishna

If you can’t give your kids what they want today, tomorrow, you won’t have time to give them anything. The things that they want now will be meaningless to them tomorrow.

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Prem

While I was in Nepal, my role was different. After being here, my role is different. That’s why certainly, I am fulfilling much more responsibility than other common men. Being a father is a challenge. I had to cut up my aspirations, will and aspirations on behalf of my daughters.

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Robinson

Being a dad is like a road with a continuous journey. My love for my daughter and my family is everlasting whatever circumstances it may be. I enjoy every moment that I spent with my daughter even though we have misunderstandings s sometimes.

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Santosh

I feel very fortunate being a dad. I became very active and vibrant when I became a dad. It’s a very positive environment for me. We share stories and by doing that, we educate each other.

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About Fathers in Focus

Fathers in Focus is a project that opens space for men to reflect on their roles as men and fathers. This project encourages fathers to talk about their experiences and emotions, allowing them to make connections between their roles and aspirations to be nurturing fathers, their own well-being, and healthy relationships within the family. Photovoice is a powerful tool that uses photography to express and document events or experiences, offer insights, and invite others to see the world from someone else’s lenses. Participants gather around specific themes such as fatherhood or migration experiences (etc.), and after completing photovoice training, take their own photos and create brief narratives that are placed alongside their photos. Photovoice is shared within groups, across communities, and is also used for public awareness, advocacy, and social change.

In this project, 11 Canadian fathers from Filipino, Iranian, Latino, Nepali, Nigerian and Pakistani (Pashtun) heritage shared their photos and stories about their fathering experiences. Please join us in learning about the critical roles that immigrant fathers play in the lives of their children and families, and celebrate the diverse stories and perspectives shared by our photographers. 

Fathers in Focus emerged as a community project through dialogues by members of the Alberta Men’s Network for violence prevention. For many of the dads, the desire to be a ‘good dad’ was complicated, and challenged traditional views, upbringing and gender roles.  We hope that this project will engage other dads and their families, as well as practitioners, policymakers, and researchers in conversations and actions that promote nurturing fatherhood. 

Many thanks to our supporting organizations: Alberta Men’s Network; The University of Calgary, Faculty of Social Work; the Alberta Network of Immigrant Women; Migrante Alberta; The University of the Fraser Valley, Faculty of Social Work; and the Nepali, Filipino, Latino and Pashtun communities. This project was made possible by funding from the O’Brien Institute for Public Health Catalyst Grant, and Calgary Arts Development.